Admit it, you do it too!
© Copyright 2020 Artwork by Cordi Neckermann
These days I often catch myself daydreaming. Before you think that I am meandering, hear me out. Recently, I moved into a new house, and my workspace has a beautiful window. And by this beautiful window sits my work desk -- perfect for daydreaming. I look up from my computer screen and the sunshine sparkling through the window is my invitation to take a little trip in my mind. We can’t travel anywhere these days except to the supermarket and back so I guess it is natural that the mind wants to stroll away on a little adventure at the drop of a hat.
Funny enough the movie in my mind isn’t even an adventure into a faraway land. It always is a love story. Not necessarily the romantic kind. I daydream about doing things I love with the people I love. Believe me, there is nothing better in this world than that.
But I also daydream about following my heart. That sounds cheesy but let’s be honest. In real life following our hearts is easier said than done. Often our life is guided more by outer influences rather than inner feelings.
Life is a tango between what's happening on the outside and what's going on inside. Discovering and holding on to our own magic, who we truly are on the inside is super challenging. E.E. Cummings says it best.
“To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting” by E.E. Cummings
We all have different backgrounds and experiences that shape us. However, we all possess the same inner superpower, a power to turn our experiences -- the good ones and the bad ones -- into something meaningful.
There are amazing stories out there of people who have overcome incredible life challenges and turned their dreams into reality starting from scratch. It is hard work for sure but when we fight for something we truly love the story changes.
Passion powers hardship
Once we find something we truly love, and that aligns with who we are on the inside, our superpowers usually take over.
Motherhood is a suitable example of mobilising inner superpowers. The demands and challenges of motherhood are endless. Lack of sleep is just one of them. But somehow it all works out because women all over the world are still having babies and are coping with all those challenges. Showing up for their families and rocking the show every single day, with extra work responsibilities pilled on top.
Their endless strength is triggered by love.
Mommy Super Powers!
Imagine if you could draw that kind of strength from loving yourself? Showing up for yourself as if you would be your child? Caring for yourself as if you would care for a sweet little child.
Sounds a bit crazy, I know.
But I think this is how we can unleash some of those inner superpowers.
If your child would tell you “I’m not good enough” you would not agree, would you? If your child would be distressed and crying you would wrap it up in your arms and make it feel safe. Choose words of love and support.
What if you could do this for yourself? In your mind, dream up the perfect self-love-story.
Once the judgmental and destructive self-talk stops you make room for being your very own cheerleader. There is space in your mind to listen and dream about what it is that YOU really want in this life.
Allowing ourselves to dream, see inside our hearts, and let love for ourselves bubble up is the best way to daydream. Becoming the creator of our world instead of feeling powerless in how life unfolds.
Dreaming is for free and nobody is there to judge
It’s like dancing when no one is watching. Permitting yourself to allow all the good stuff in. There are teachers out there who are convinced that through the law of attraction whatever we visualise over a longer period of time will come true. They believe that we can bend time and space to our will and influence the universe with our vibrations.
I’m not sure about all of this. To me just feeling better because I can allow myself to dream is already enough. It makes it easier to get through the hard times, which is the only superpower I need because life is ever-changing and being armed with superpowers to get through the hard bits is enough for me.
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” by Elenor Roosevelt
This is one of my favourite quotes. The dreams we hold in our hearts don’t always have to come true. Sometimes it is important to have them and enjoy their beauty. Especially in moments when life has other plans. But life can also present us with circumstances that are beyond our wildest dreams. Trailing off into a daydream is the practice run for what good fortune might come our way. If we can believe it, we can see it and it might come true.
A lot of power lies in visualising the life of our dreams. Especially in times when things are not working out quite the way we would like to. Visualising is a little bit more goal-oriented while daydreaming is more spontaneous and helps us discover our goals.
In this article on the benefits of visualisation you can find a guide on how to get started.
Don’t push too hard
A good visualisation process always begins with a solid relaxation practice. I find it is a very individual process. Visualising doesn’t work when we push too hard. It has to be a journey towards something we love, only then do dreaming and visualising occur naturally. It’s like flowing towards our goal as opposed to fighting windmills.
We love our dreams and we dream about what we love. So visualising what we need to do to reach our goals should come easy. We need to allow ourselves to dream and be able to feel what it’s like to already have reached our goal.
Paying attention to what might keep us from seeing our dreams fulfilled in our mind is a tender process that requires a lot of self-love and acceptance so we can slice through our negative beliefs and patterns. Patience and being honest with myself are my two best friends helping me through realising any blocks that might come up when visualising the life of my dreams.
If you happen to visualise or daydream about dancing then I would love to meet you. Hop on over to my class schedule and book.
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See you soon,
Cordi