Updated: Feb 16
When you try to make a guitar string vibrate to create sound but restrict it too much from swinging there will be no sound. The very same thing holds true for me. All elements have their own frequency and resonate even with our bodies. Every cell within the body is a sound resonator. If my day is stuffed with too many tasks, especially boring and annoying ones. I turn into a dull zombie, running from place to place working off my to-do list feeling like a robot. We all have days like this.
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When I put too much pressure on myself or don’t get enough resting time everything feels out of step. It’s like mind, body and heart play a different song and get louder and louder because they are not heard. Body aches and pains appear out of nowhere, thoughts spin out of control and my mood turns sour. Low vibes all around. The going gets tough because everything feels tightened up. Things screech when they are supposed to be moving forward at lightning speed.
This even happens sometimes over things I love doing. When there are too many have-to-dos and no time to actually enjoy it all I turn into a dull nut. Without enough rest and playtime life just seems to rush by. while I turn into lifeless and dull zombies.
You might think playtime is just for kids but I believe we can all do with a bit more of that in our life. Everyone needs a break here and there. What matters is the quality of our break times. Plopping down in front of the TV never really feels like a break to me. Watching TV puts even more worry and drama into my head feeding me more low vibrations.
So what is it that can get us out of this over-stressed and dull state? I find it’s curiosity. Curiosity is definitely a superpower and a sort of prequel to creativity. I believe living creatively is the key to a lighter, less restricted approach to life. By living creatively I don’t mean starting a creative hobby but allowing creative and unconventional solutions into your life so you can enjoy it more. Let’s face it as grown-ups we pretty much roll with things. We do a job, earn some money, have relationships, a phone, kids, and pets, and every week is pretty much the same. with a few holiday highlights thrown in. If you are nodding your head now it is time to bring out your curiosity superpower!
From Robot Zombie to more Freedom
You know exactly what feeling stressed out is like. Tackling the never-ending to-do list without rest and always fighting against the clock puts us into robot zombie mode. For some people this can cause anxiety for me it is the opposite. I turn into a robot zombie rushing through each day feeling frustrated, drained, and lifeless. That’s the moment when I know I need to activate my curiosity superpower and ask myself the mighty question WHY?
It seems super simple and it kind of is. Flat out asking yourself why you are feeling a certain way can be magical. The magic lies not in the asking but in taking charge and asking yourself instead of waiting for someone else to ask. Yes, that’s right we can absolutely say to ourselves “Hello, how are you feeling today?” Being curious and taking time to find out about how we really feel especially when we can already tell we feel out of step and not quite with it can be a lifesaver. There are many ways to enter a dialogue with yourself. For me, the best way to do this is on paper. As soon as I put a pen to paper either for drawing or writing I can connect to the feelings behind the discomfort and just let everything flow out of me. I’m not good at talking it out. That’s just not my thing. It really is an individual experience for each one of us. Some people need to go for a run or sit still in meditation to connect with their feelings. Anything goes as long as you are able to listen to yourself. Be curious and find out what works for you :-)
So when I start feeling like a zombie robot I take a piece of paper write a big why at the top of the page and then just let the pen flow. What comes spilling out almost always has to do with some form of lack. Lack of love, lack of money, lack of time.
The F word. Yes, that one
“F*** it is the western expression of the eastern spiritual idea of letting go, giving up and relaxing our hold on things” - John C. Parkin
Relaxing our hold on things is the magic ingredient to create a shift in our mood and vibration. Mind you there are different levels of anxiety and some of them need professional help. Always reach out to a professional when you feel overwhelmed by your emotions. Luckily mental health has become a popular subject and all you have to do is ask your health care professional and you will receive the help you need. You don’t have to do this alone :-)
I’m talking about the everyday kind of stresses, the kind that is created by the feeling of having something missing in life.
Say it loud and proud
Releasing my hold on things, especially when I perceive them as lacking from my life is super hard for me. Just sitting there and thinking you have to let go and release it into the universe doesn't work for me at all. I need to bring out the big guns. So when the book The F*** it Theory fell into my hands things finally started to work. I can highly recommend this book (meanwhile there are a few of them). I often laughed out loud walking down the street listening to the audiobook and was able to apply the lesson. F*** it what other people think :-)
Jokes aside, here is what I do after having released all my misery onto the page, well very often it is pages. I draw a line underneath it all and write in big, enormous letters F*** IT underneath. This gives me a feeling of resetting my system. Resetting and recalibrating. Taking my power back and putting me in charge and that’s where creativity swoops in to save the day. The best superpower of all. Creativity needs curiosity to grow and bring more joy, lightheartedness, and giggles into our life. Being open for creative solutions and letting curiosity and creativity into our life is a huge act of self-love because we are inviting many possibilities as a solution to a problem and not just the one we set our mind to. It’s like being sure of your destination but letting the driver decide how to get there. Releasing the hold on how things have to happen. I am always surprised to find out how I unconsciously reject a simple solution to something because it is not the way I’m used to doing it. Like outsourcing tasks requires a huge F*** it on my part.
This past year I had to get used to doing things a bit differently and saying f*** it to a whole lot of things. Turns out it is super fun and freeing.
“Freedom is to be able to do what you want when you want and with whom you want” -forgot who said it, sorry
I read it somewhere but I forgot where but I 100% agree with this. When I feel like I’m free to choose what to do without planning. Do whatever it is I feel like doing in the very moment without any guilt that is the purest joy for me. Yes, I’ve been called spontaneous and crazy at times but F*** it, that’s what makes me happy. I always try to shoot for one of the three things to hold true in my life to keep myself from the robot zombie mode:
to be somewhere I want to be
to do something I love
to be with someone I enjoy being with
I get creative in achieving at least one of those three things and that alone is quite enjoyable. So be curious about yourself and your feelings and get creative in finding out how you can relax your hold on things.
Keep in mind When one door of opportunity closes you can always choose to just jump through the window.
Lots of love,